How Does Anger Play A Role In Our Lives ?

By: Mehwash Fatima, Trainee Reporter-ICN

NEW DELHI: The purpose of deliberation of me at the moment is that I am no doubt exasperated and anguished with the way people think and behave these days. Most of the time, I find people short fused. They get offended easily and start fighting even for trivial reasons. Interesting thing to note is that they themselves generate norms and combat pointlessly with each other even putting right thinking in it. Every other person that you would find fighting with the other one or having some heated arguments, I think they are absolutely imprudent, and this behavior is quite immature.

The reason for which I am saying this, I will prove this right in front of you, and you will agree with me. I have noticed a lot the facts on which people often fight, whether siblings or husband with his wife, or children with their parents, or in any other relationship.

Anger or wrath is a powerful emotive state. It contains a sturdy uncomfortable and hostile response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat. People feel angry when they sense that they or someone they care about has been offended, when they are certain about the nature and cause of the enraging situation, when they are convinced someone else is responsible, and when they feel they can still influence the situation or cope with it.

For instance, if a person’s bike is damaged, they will feel angry if someone else did it (e.g. another driver knocked it), but will feel bad instead if it was caused by situational forces (e.g. a hailstorm) or remorse and embarrassment if they were personally responsible (e.g. he crashed into a wall out of momentary carelessness).

Here is a great saying reflecting the true consequences of anger,

          “Red sky at night, shepherd’s delight; red sky in the morning, shepherd take warning”.

Every other person is so busy and engulfed in their own selfishness that they only think about their perspective of thinking related to that particular argument. No one puts a single effort to just stop a minute of shouting and think according to the perspective with whom they are fighting. What that person is thinking and why he thinks that a particular thing is wrong and fighting over it.

Maybe he would be right, or, if not, then you would at least get to know his perspective of that thing, that is making him feel bad.  And that is the only key point to stop the argument.

Just two minutes, thinking about the person in front of you and according to his perspective, you will immediately solve the problem and would end up the argument. That will keep you protected from any kind of depression or frustration.

But I think not a single person alive is following this, including me.

Although, I have started following this, and it keeps me calm and cool. Whenever I have any argument, I just stop thinking my way, and discover the perspective of the person in front of me.

And believe me, it really helps, at least the argument stops, and relationships mend.

                                     Here’s a poem:

                                                                            “   Against wrath his help shall be,

                                                                               if he has grace in heart to see,

                                                                              how angels, should his anger rise,

                                                                                  flee fast from him and go

                                                                              and demons run to him in haste;

                                                                               hell’s fury burns his heart

                                                                             and makes him so hot and high

                                                                             that none may stand him nigh.”

“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”     

Chinese Proverb

Mehwash Fatima has penned her first novel in English and will be published soon.

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